Granted, we all have issues and could benefit from a good therapist or most times, an old fashion prayer meeting. But I am tired of being the designated “whipping post” for individuals who decide to project their negative emotions on me.
Below is an email exchange between me and a family member that pissed me the hell off and has forced me to start the process of weeding and pruning my Loved-Ones Garden. (The real names have been deleted but the exchange is authentic). The last response made me laugh and think…”Don’t fire your therapist!”
Sent: Tuesday, October 30, 2007 12:16 PM
I’ve copied everyone on this email so as not to omit anyone. For those of you who already have XXX’s contact information, pardon me. ( :I received an email from our cousin (maybe your brother or nephew), XXX on yesterday! He wanted me to forward the email addresses of other family members that I had….so I am doing just that!
We have to do a better job of keeping in touch…yes, I’m admonishing myself with that statement!! ( :
Love you all!!!
Sent: Tuesday, October 30, 2007 2:49 PM
Hello Chocl8t & XXX,I find this to be so funny….. better Job! How can one do a better job when the job responsibilities never took place.
So with that being said the statement should be “Start doing the job of communicating with your family members.”
I know that I am guilty of this and to be quite frank I do not feel the closeness to do so. But I myself will have to pray on this and hope that God bestowes on me to be close. I will take the opportunity to say have a Happy and bless Thanksgiving.
Sent: Tuesday, October 30, 2007 3:08 PM
To: ZZZ, XXX
Whoa! Okay it’s obvious someone has…shall I say…baggage and unresolved issues.ZZZ, if you don’t feel the need to communicate, which is a starting point to foster some “closeness”, then don’t. Frankly,given the tone of your email, I would prefer that you didn’t communicate with me at all until you could do so without being so critical, condescending and just downright rude.
Sent: Tuesday, October 30, 2007 3:40 PM
agreed…. I would do myself a great injustice if I did not agree with you.