“When you decide you want happiness look me up” – Craig
That is a snippet of a very short email from a man I have never met. I will get back to that momentarily.
Several days ago I tweeted that this online dating thing was no better than “offline“. That email offers some proof of that.
Upon embarking on this new adventure, I thought it would be fun. Since I am not looking for a husband to get married, I thought I would, at the very least, meet a couple of interesting people, go on a few dates and it would be all good. The idea was to diversify my dating pool, as it were, because I don’t do the club scene.
I even entertained the idea of blogging about my experience because many of the profiles and pictures made me giggle and guffaw a few times. Truth is, I howled with laughter at some of them. However, I decided against it.
There would be nothing to gain from poking fun at another’s quest to find love and happiness. There are a multitude of lonely people out there looking for their “soul mates”. To them I bid a sincere, heartfelt God speed.
However….the misguided, arrogant douchebag that sent that message made me say, “Awe, fuck it!”
Let me give you a little background so you can put it in its proper context.
This particular online dating site offers a couple of options to communicate your interest in, and to, prospective dates. You can “wink“, email, instant message, or ask for a phone number. Also, there is a wonderful feature that allows you to see who has viewed your public profile. I like this feature and I use it often and I am certain I am not alone in my sentiment. After trolling a couple of profiles, which included his, I get this message from “Craig” on April 22nd. (click the image for a larger view)
I didn’t respond. Why not? I wasn’t interested. Nothing about him stood out for me.
Then I get the following message this morning.
Seriously? Are you that arrogant and delusional that you think any “happiness” for me will begin with YOU?
Craig, I seriously doubt any woman would find happiness with you.
Because Craig, YOU are not happy with YOU. If you were, you would not have been so compelled to send that second message.
I have exchanged “winks” and sent an email only for the guy(s) not to respond further. Did I react out of feelings of rejection, unworthiness, low self-esteem, and no self-confidence to email him again to say, in essence, “Holla back when you’re ready to get with the best cause obviously you are too blind to see what I have to offer you“?
No. I did not. I let it roll and chalked it up to the game – just as you should have done. Just as any normal well-adjusted ADULT would have done.
I know this dating thing is not easy and the issue with doing it online is that finding chemistry with a person can be hit or miss. The key, though, is not to internalize any perceived rejection, take it personally and behave like a jerk.
The dating scene is not for the faint of heart or fragile of egos. Nor does it seem that it is for YOU Craig…and neither am I.
Soooo, with that, I offer you a sincere and heartfelt…FUCK OFF!!